What Women Really Mean When They Say
Ideally, we would all say what we mean, and mean what we say.
But the world doesn’t always work that way. It should, then it will be a simpler place to live in.
Guys, I’m gonna get your back and save you a world of pain by helping you decode a handful of normal every day words, but when used by a wounded woman in a situation where she feels wronged and you have not yet made up for it or both of you have not resolved the issue to mutual satisfaction, then the same words are like a fistful of lethal weapons, loaded and deadly, ready for the punch.
Here are 5 words that can get lost in translation. The key is in the tone. If a word is said with sarcasm or a glint in the eye, think the opposite meaning:
1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is right and you need to shut up.
So shut up. Having the last word is over rated.It’s not really winning, if when you win the point, and you lose her.
2. Nothing: really means something. And you need to be worried.
If you can’t figure out what that something is, tell her “You tell me nothing, yet I sense there is something. Perhaps you are not ready to talk about it. When you are, let me know, so i can make some time to listen.“ Who talks like that? You ask. You should. Your willingness to be there for her might turn that something into nothing. If she has nothing to worry about, neither do you.
3. Go ahead: In case you mistake this for permission, this is a dare.
Do not do it. I repeat. Do not do it.
4. Whatever: a woman’s way of saying screw you.
The best way to screw with her back is to tell her you get that she is mad. And you don’t want it to be whatever. You want it to be good. She wouldn’t know what to make of it. And when she recovers from the shock, at least she knows you understood what she really meant. It might be the start of the road to recovery.
5. That’s okay: it’s not okay.
In fact, she is thinking long and hard on how and when you will pay for your mistake. Do not think it is actually going to be okay without you needing to make it okay. Be afraid, be very afraid. Or better yet, be brave. Be a man. Say you are sorry and own it. Take accountability for your actions and let her know what you are gonna do to fix it moving forward, then do it. ‘I’m sorry’ is a statement. 'I won’t do it again’ is a promise. 'How do I make it up to you’ is a responsibility. Nothing turns a girl on more than a guy who can commit (to her, to his words, and follow through like a man of action). That way, it will be okay.
Bonus big secret:
WOW!: This is not a compliment. she is amazed at how stupid one person can be.
Yup, Contempt, the sure fire way to hurt a man. And it’s a double edged sword that cuts both ways. Hurt men tend to lash out in anger. Hello Anger, goodbye love. Goodbye relationship. So this one’s for the ladies, rather than cut everyone up by being cutting, why not try saying what you really mean instead. A guy doesn’t live in your head, so don’t make him assume then get mad at him when he does make an ass out of u and me.
Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost. (Khalil Gibran)
Just saying.